These are two of my oldest friends. One I've known since I was 4, the other since college. We are fortunate to still be in each others' lives. My friend that I've known since I was 4 was instrumental in my reversion back to the faith, as well as my decision to homeschool. By being such a good friend, she also helped me to find my tribe.
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It can be very lonely to be a homeschooler without any close friends. Kind of like your kids, you have a need to have some social interaction. At the very least, it would be nice to have someone to call when you had a question about kids or homeschooling or relationships.
Let's not dwell on the negatives, though. Let's look at the positive steps you can take to find your tribe if you don't feel you have one.
7 Good Places to Find a Tribe
- The first thing I think of is looking for a local homeschool group. If you're new to homeschooling or have just moved to a new area, search out a local group and get involved. There are sure to be welcoming families there. If there isn't a group, look for a local co-op and sign up for some classes. You can ask at your church if they know of anyone or any group like that.
- Which brings up my next great place - your church. Go to daily Mass a few times. You're sure to draw the attention of someone :). Ask if the other attendees know any homeschooling families that you could get in touch with. Everyone seems to know someone who is homeschooling. If you find someone, contact the mom and set up a play date.
- Do you like to get outside? Start going to parks, walking paths, or local splash pads during the day while school is in session. If you see other families out, they're probably homeschoolers. Try to muster the courage to introduce yourself and see what happens.
- Is there a moms group at your parish? If so, GO! Even a CCW or women's group of some sort would be a great way to go.
- What about exercise? Could you join a gym, or the local YMCA or park district to meet other moms?
- Look on Facebook for Catholic homeschooling mom groups and ask around if anyone lives near you. Plan a date to meet up and get to know one another.
- Don't be shy at your kids' sports or dance practices. There are a lot of moms there! Strike up a conversation.
It Might Take Time
Yes, it might take time, and a few trial-and-error play dates, to find other women you connect with. Don't give up, though!
Also, by no means do all your friends have to be Catholic and homeschooling! It does, however, help to have a few close friends that definitely share your core values.
Once you find some women you feel are tribe material, make sure to nurture those friendships. Use your gifts to help those friendships grow. Make time, even when time seems tight, to stay in touch with your friends. If you do that, you will be able to have those friendships for a very long time.
Good friends are hard to find and are a blessing from God. Praise Him when you find a good one.
Tell us how you found your tribe! I love hearing these kinds of stories!